I’ve had a bit of a set back this past week. My brother in law passed away at the age of 51 on Sunday October 4th. He lost a 15 month battle with lung cancer.
It’s always a shock when you hear anyone who has cancer. You wonder if they will beat it, you wonder if they will have to have surgery, will it be painful, will they lose their hair etc… We all thought in the beginning that everything was going to be okay. You hope for the best, you cheer when initial results are promising, you have fear when results come back not as good as you hoped.
Tom was an excellent musician, singing in bands and he even headed to Nashville to try his hand at becoming a professional musician. It didn’t pan out, but I always admired him for trying to make that dream come true.
Tom was married young to a great woman. But as in lots of marriages when both people are young after a few years, they ended up getting divorced and going their separate ways.
After one of Tom’s relationships didn’t work out, he was packing up his things, and came across pictures from his first wife’s family. He didn’t want to throw them out, but he had no idea where she was or where she lived. After looking her up and finding her mother, he decided to give her a call.
What he found out was that she was a single mother with a daughter who was three. They talked on the phone for hours and after that first call, they both admitted that they never stopped loving each other.
Tom moved back, they started dating again, and got re-married to each other, and Tom adopted her daughter to raise as his own. That was 10 years ago, and I always thought it was such a great story that they found each other again, especially now, knowing his life would be cut short.
So, I mourn for a life ended early, I mourn for his daughter who is 13 who is without her dad, a wife who won’t grow old with her husband and I am sad for all of my husband’s family to have to go through losing a brother, an uncle, a friend.
Why does it take someone to lose their life early to really figure out what’s important and that taking care of yourself and exercising will keep you with your loved ones a lot longer!!
That’s what I am planning to do! Eat right as much as I can and move more.
Thank you for sharing Tom’s story – I’m so sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks. It just does. And it seems to be hitting all around blogland lately. Sigh.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Wish I had words to heal the pain you’re feeling, but I’m sending the most heartfelt thoughts your way.
Wow! Very touching post! Thank you for sharing your story with us and all that is important! I’m sorry to hear your and your family’s loss – I’ll keep you in my prayers!
I am so sorry for your loss. What a love story…
And you are right it’s a very sad reminder to focus on what is important in life…
Hang in there…
what a beautiful and sad story – I am sorry about your loss!
Sad reminders are what keeps us in check. Painful yes, it’s true. I am so sorry about your loss and for his daughter who will now be forced to face feelings no child should ever have to face let alone at such a young young age.
You are in my thoughts & prayers!
Thank you for sharing Tom’s beautiful and touching story. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Oh Jennifer, I am so sorry. Give my best to Dave and his family. I know this is difficult on all of them. Having met him, his wife and his daughter (Danielle, right?), I am really sad to hear your news. But your post in memory of him is beautiful. My prayers are with you all.
I’m so sorry for your loss Jen. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.
Hugs to you!
I’m sending good thoughts and vibes your way. I’m sorry to hear about your loss and glad that you’re handling it well and sticking to your healthy habits.